![]() Because that would require us to give up hello and goodbye, and all the other greetings and farewells which carry almost no meaning other than to signal the potential opening or closing of a communication channel. It can't be their frequency, or we'd also hate words like I and the and even and, all of which we use a lot more than whatever, defined by Merriam-Webster as "used interjectionally to suggest the unimportance of an issue or decision between alternatives, 'go see a movie, watch TV, - whatever.' "Īnd if we hated the people who say "whatever" and "anyway," or worse yet, "anyhoo," which has just been added to the Oxford English Dictionary in the sense, "used (humorously) to indicate a change of topic, or a return to a previous topic after a digression," then we'd quickly run out of friends and relatives to talk to and some of us wouldn't even be on speaking terms with ourselves.Īnd it can't be that we hate all meaningless words. Like, often cited as annoying, does not appear in the summary of the Marist poll's findings. 7% picked anyway, and at the end of the list, only 2% opted for at the end of the day, a phrase which was actually marked as most annoying in a thoroughly unscientific 2008 British list of annoying English. It is what it is, a relative newcomer to the most-annoying category, came in third, with an 11 share, and 8% of respondents chose "I don't know" - the poll response, not the annoying phrase. It gives you the impression of being not enough, but without any positive reasons for changing.The Marist Poll reports that whatever is hated by 47% of those surveyed, and one quarter of all Americans can't stand you know. These thoughts are often rooted in comparing yourself to others. It isn’t a word that inspires you to change, it is a word you are using to shame yourself. And it’s always something you are using to beat yourself up. ‘I should be thinner’, ‘I should do more with my kids’. Should is one of those words that turns up a lot in the way you talk to yourself. Your children are a fundamental part of who you are, and so it becomes not only a judgement on your child but on you as well. Everyone has an opinion on how children ‘should’ be raised, on everything from physical milestones to sleep. With children involved it becomes even more loaded. And it’s impossible to hear without feeling challenged or attacked. It’s impossible to say without sounding like you’re passing judgement on someone (or yourself). If you should be doing something else, you can’t be doing the right thing right now? You should change. It immediately assumes that what you are doing or saying or feeling right now is wrong. used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticising someone’s actions. What and when and how they should do everything. As as a parent not only do you get all your own ‘shoulds’, but you get them for your children too. ![]() How did it make you feel? Did you immediately jump to do or say or feel whatever it was you ‘should’? I’ll take another guess again that you didn’t. When was the last time someone told you you ‘should’ do something? When was the last time you told yourself you ‘should’ do something? I will guess that it was within the last day.
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